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HEAL YOURSELF

People often say that self-healing can be misguiding and a little amateur in nature, given the fact that it’s majorly driven by our instincts.

Self-healing from a psychological perspective is a way or process of recovery which you recommend, guide and follow by yourself depending on your instincts.

The reason I am talking about self-healing is that I am going through one such process on my own. Not sure of how will it progress, but in the past, it has worked very well for me and I am looking forward to it working now.

I am writing this article for everyone who at some point in their lives have been hurt, broken, had given up, or when they thought that nothing is working out for them. I urge you to sit down and calmly focus and recapitulate what caused the distress in your life or the reason that has eventually made you feel miserable and sad. While most people will suggest that you don’t talk about how you feel, don’t think about the loss of the loved ones, don’t cry if your lover has left you, don’t stress if your loan doesn’t get sanctioned for buying a house, furthering your education, for your kids tuition fee, etc. But trust me, instead, you should go talk about it with everyone you are close to. When you are finally done talking (obviously to people who you know will listen to you and not judge you no matter what) no matter if it’s an hour-long monologue or a day’s exhaustion or a week’s burden or a month’s disaster or even years of pain, lie down. Lie down and think about the reasons for your pain, of your anger, your rancor, your rage and try finding out why are you affected by it so much? I am not saying you will get an answer or a 100% accurate solution from yourself as we honestly are blinded at times, but what you will definitely know are some reasons which are the source of your pain. And what will you do know about these sources? Focus. As you focused hard enough to know and learn about your pain points, its time now to focus on breaking the bond between you and your agony.

Sit tight, take a deep breath, smile, cry, laugh, or do everything at the same time. Let your emotions flow. Now calm yourself down and relax. Life is too short to keep cribbing about situations, things, people, or ourselves for that matter. Life is too short to sit and think bad about someone, or curse someone or regret about things. Repent, regret, anger, sorrow, guilt, hatred, sabotage, if you look at it are all words associated with or considered negative. In reality, these are just words we have associated in our heads with the notion of being negative. Let that negativity flow out from your head, calm yourself down. You deserve to be pampered and no one can do it better than yourself.

Honestly, life is an experience where balance is essential and both good and bad are equally important. During the process of self-healing, you should introspect and focus on learning more about yourself. Make a goal chart for yourself, work on it and try making yourself a better version of yourself constantly and see things change.

How do I know it works? As I write this I know I am evolving constantly and as I write this, my mind is slowly soaking all the positivity around me and letting go of the negatives. And honestly speaking, this has made me feel relaxed. During the process of self-healing, it is also important to have positive thoughts and a promise that you make to yourself of loving yourself. You need to love yourself enough to walk out of any situation, place, occurrence, event or people who are adding no value to you and who are constantly trying to make your life hell. You need to also love yourself enough to know what’s in your best interest and what is not. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and start treating both your mind and body as a temple for one who can’t treat themselves with love and respect, can’t treat anyone else with love and respect.

Take out time every day to sit and talk to yourself for at least 5 minutes. Take out time to introspect regularly, to maintain a good health, eat a balanced diet, surround yourself with positive people, meditate, read good books, travel and see the magic that life has to offer to you and what you can offer to yourself. Easier said than done, but trust me, as I write what I write, I am doing just the same and I can’t be more peaceful at the moment than this. This is one way in which I am helping myself and this is not the only but definitely, one of those ways which have helped me calm myself down. Focus on what is actually important, be happy, avoid the situation of feeling too much pain and the best thing, learning how to survive alone. For no matter, if you have people with you or not, you are one person who will always remain with you. So its time to heal whatever can’t be restored or created again and live up to your expectations and never get disheartened. As all we have is one life and we should do justice to ourselves, as for all we will always have is ourselves and if we don’t keep ourselves happy then there is no way we can make someone else happy.

Source: Unknown, Facebook
Source: Unknown, Facebook

It’s time to rise and shine and heal oneself and cut us from the lethal claws of our own mind and the judgments of other people. It’s time to heal yourself and smile and move on to live in the present for we now cry for what’s gone already and we will in the future cry for how we let this time slip away and this circle never ends until life gives up on us. Before this happens, heal yourself and get up to be the best version of yourself that you can ever be.

And remember, give yourself enough time. Time will make you stronger and time will heal everything. Even if you don’t forget what happened or what disturbs you, you will learn to deal with it and be fine with it. Heal yourself and let the magic begin. =)

 

India on the eve of Independence

With everyone talking about Independence in India today, I will not go into the nitty gritties or the how, who and what of Independence but talk about a situation I faced today on the eve of India’s 71st Independence Day Celebration.
Place: Bangalore, (right outside my apartment), Time: 9:00 PM, Date: 15th Aug 2017.
It was drizzling and I was down to grab a bottle of juice and was returning home from the shop right next to my building with an umbrella in one hand and a bag in the other. I was entering the building thinking how pleasant the weather is and how good everything is today. Just then a man out of nowhere on his bike came crashing to me and by the time I had realized what happened, he had vanished in the dark. This was the first time ever in my life that I could not catch hold of a person who molested me. Before this, I have always somehow managed to catch hold of the molester. This time, owning to the things I had in my hand I was unable to. The man suddenly ran into me and not just squeezed my breast but smashed me and injured me badly with the handle of his bike and finally pushed me back and ran off. Till the time I could understand what had happened, he was gone. All I could do was curse him and just that. And out of helplessness a drop of tear fell out of my eyes and for the first time I had a situation where I could do nothing. This feeling of helplessness is bad, trust me this is not anyone of us should go through.
The worst part is that we keep talking about an Independent nation but even after the 71st year of Independence, the status of women in India is questionable. No matter how much we say that we are progressing and our mind-set is changing, a woman is not safe even at her home. I was right outside my flat! Not even a kilometer or a feet away but right outside and I was molested.
molestation
Let’s face it, in a country where from a newly born kid to a 60 year old lady can get raped, there is no independence that I see. It has happened to me today and out of all the frustration that has filled my heart, I am writing this but this is the story and case of a million women who go through this every single day in this country. There are thousands of girls and not just girls but guys who face this and no strict measures are being taken. Least to say, that animals are also not spared. We hear stories of gang rape to animal molestation every day and India is definitely not progressing but degrading in the way our mind-set is.
I know majority of the people who commit this crime are barely going to read this here and even if they do they don’t really care but the ground reality is, that we are doing nothing to educate them and ranting about it on social media is definitely not going to help. But there must be a solution to it. We can’t say that teaching our kids techniques of self defense will help, yes they do but not in the case of a 2-3 month old baby and not in case of the poor dogs on the road who are now becoming the victim. We need to go to the root of the problem and solve it from their. I don’t see the Government doing anything about this situation and since the laws are not stringent, nobody gives a jackass about it.
When in a country, the fine towards animal cruelty is INR 50 and when a women gets raped or molested she is told that either you must be wearing indecent clothes or you must be out late. How can we trust anyone or anything? The status of our Independence still remains in dark. Let’s focus on how to make India a safer place where we can actually be independent and live safely and do not have to fear going out irrespective of what the time is and what are the clothes that we are in.
PS. I was wearing a full length kurti with nothing visible or revealing from anywhere. The dirt is in the mind and not in the dress we wear.